Psychology Today on LinkedIn: The Benefits of Being "Boring" | 53 comments (2024)

Dilmi Weerasinghe

Founder Serenity Well-being | Mental Health Practitioner | Certified Professional Transformational Coach

1y

In my family culture, I was not appreciated for being an extrovert. They thought I was too much, my behavior was not appropriate for a woman.It was always a conflict between the real self & ideal self...Who says "Interesting" - The SocietyWho says "Boring"? - The same societyWhen I started to look at my life without lenses, I was able to see the beauty of being authentic

Sarah Duggan

Organisational Psychologist & Therapist: Blending Talent, Wellbeing, Counselling and Coaching to improve Business/People Performance to drive Growth 🌟🌱

1y

About time! Anyone also an ambivert? Adventurous, outgoing and gregarious at times but also values alone time and solitude…who then appears “boring” 🤣🫣.

Dajana Zelic, MSc, CPCC, ACC

Co-Active Coach | Wellness Advocate | I empower humans to strengthen their relationship with self & others, and get out of their own way.

1y

Whenever there's talk about introversion or extraversion, the perspective is always "How does it look to others?" In reality, the true topic is "What are your personal needs?"A lot of people nowadays identify with the term "ambivert", because guess what? It's impossible to stuff all people into two neat boxes labeled "extrovert" and "introvert."Sometimes, in the right context, with the right people, "introverts" can be very outgoing. Simultaneously, someone labeled as "extroverted" may have the time of their life spending a weekend in solitude, hiking, reading books and just enjoying their own company.Who cares if others think how you spend your time is "boring". Your purpose in life isn't to entertain others.Don't worry so much about what other people think. Worry about whether you are meeting your own needs or not.

Hossein Ghanizadeh

1y

... are often called boring ...In some societies , perhaps , people call one another this or that simply by the broad seat of their pants .For example , in my society ( double doctorate degrees society ) , if they like someone , they call him a ' humble ' scientist , even if he knows absolutely nothing about science .It is a matter of the seat of one's pants when we call people this ( + ) or that (- ) .

Joe Bou Khalil

Multifaceted Innovator: Author, YouTuber, App & Game Developer, AI Enthusiast, Entrepreneur in Cryptocurrencies, Cybersecurity, and Finance.

1y

Boredom can encourage creativity. Insight is the epiphany moment that occurs when one stops trying to solve a difficult problem. Furthermore, boredom can enhance general brain health. When things are exciting, the brain releases a substance called dopamine, which is linked to feeling good.

Rayni Collins, BC-DMT, LPCS, LCMHCS

Therapist for Creatives in NC & SC

1y

The message of introversion being a negative trait needs to disappear. So many introverts are overextending themselves trying to fit the “social norms” catered to extroverts. We need people from both sides of the spectrum for balance in social connection.

Naina D.

Experienced EA/PA open to new opportunities and flexible on location

1y

A very interesting and thought provoking read. For me, it's important to acknowledge that a lot of introverts (or 'quiet boring' people) may be like this because of their cultural background/upbringing and what their communities expect of them - in other words, conformity. Many feel suppresed by this and withdraw internally, never really feeling able to be themselves in such scenarios. The flip side of this is that they will feel much more able to be outgoing, fun to be with and being who they naturally are when with people external to their communities because all the pressure of expectation disappears and they don't have to act or behave in a particular way. It's also important to remember that everyone has different life experiences and we, none of us, know what the person next to us may be going through internally, which may also be the reason they are 'quiet and boring'.

Lionel Mares, MPA

City of Los Angeles | Community Advocate | EmpowerLA | Budget Advocate | Sierra Club SFV | LA Bicycle Advisory Committee CD6 Representative | CicLAvia Outreach Team Member

1y

I look for adventure. I don’t have any friends, but I take part in activism and activities such as hiking, bicycling, and civic engagement in local politics. That is how I keen myself focused and “entertained”. Many people know who I am by now, and at the same time, they underestimate me. 🙃

Raymond Sheppard

Mental Strength at ANS

1y

To be thought of as boring, might not be too bad, especially if it keeps the crap away from you.

Sara Liddle

Chief Operating Officer @ Cloudset | NED | Relationship Coach | Podcaster

1y

I struggle with the labels introverts and extroverts whilst I recognise it’s helpful to increase your self awareness, it can feel like you are trapped in a persona that can’t be changed. The reality is you will have traits from both types and you are in control of when you tap into each one when you need. A great question to ask is “what do I need or what can do right now to improve my life tomorrow”