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If you've ever thought a girl was pretty, you might have the desire to check her out. Instead of staring directly at the girl, however, there are less obvious ways that you can look at her. If you're shy or don't know the girl it's natural to want to steal a glance but you also have to realize that repeatedly staring at a girl is inappropriate, especially if it makes them feel uncomfortable. By hiding your gaze and using misdirection, you can look at the girl without her noticing.

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Hiding Your Gaze

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    Shift your gaze around. Staring makes it obvious that you're checking a girl out. Instead of keeping your eyes on her, pretend like you're looking around the room naturally. As you're moving your head and eyes around, sneak looks at the girl that you want to check out.

    • For instance if you notice her at a sporting event, you can pretend to watch the game but steal looks at her instead.
    • If you share the same lunch period you can act like you're looking around the cafeteria or looking at your friends, when you're really checking her out.
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    Wear sunglasses to obscure your eyes. Sunglasses will hide where you're looking and enable you to check out a girl without her thinking that you're looking directly at her. If you want to use sunglasses, make sure that you get ones with dark or reflective lenses so that she can't see your eyes.

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    Watch her from afar. If you're far enough away from the girl, she won't be able to see your eyes or where you're looking. If you don't want her to notice you, wait for her to walk at least five feet (1.5 m) away before turning to look at her.

    • Don't follow the girl around, just check her out when she's around you.
    • Avoid doing this repeatedly or she and her friends may think you're creepy.
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    Use your peripheral vision. Instead of looking directly in the girl's direction, you can use your side vision, or your peripheral vision, to check them out. You can practice this in your room by keeping your head straight and trying to look at things on the side of you. Instead of turning your head or facing the girl, look at her from the side.

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    Check her out quickly. There's no reason why you need to stare at someone. Instead, just take a quick glance, check her out, and then look at something else. If you check her out for too long, it could come off as creepy and isn't a habit you want to get into.[1]

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    Pretend that you're reading. Put a book or a newspaper in front of you and pretend that you're reading it. When the girl comes near you or walks past you, you can lift your gaze and check her out without her noticing. If you pull it off correctly, she'll just think that you were reading.

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    Look at her while she's preoccupied. If the girl's concentration is on something else, she won't be looking at you and you can check her out without her noticing. She could be talking to someone else, eating, exercising, or her head could be turned. Just make sure that her attention is on something else so that she doesn't catch you checking her out.[2]

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    Create a distraction. If the girl's attention isn't on anything, you can create a distraction to misdirect her. Drop something on the ground or ask her to help you with homework and then check her out while she's concentrating on it. You can also ask her opinion of a piece of art, show, or event, and then sneak a look at her.

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    Pretend that there's a reason to be around her. Try to come up with valid excuses of why you might need to be around her. Group up with her for group projects or try to sit next to her if you share classes together. If she regularly shops at a certain place, you can start shopping there so that you have more opportunities and excuses to be around her.

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    Don't make the girl feel uncomfortable. If you keep checking the girl out and staring at her, it could make her feel uncomfortable and threatened. If the girl looks or tells you that she feels uncomfortable, stop looking at her and walk away.

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    Apologize and stop checking her out if she catches you. If the girl catches you, don't try to avoid the situation. Instead, admit that you were checking her out, apologize, and stop doing it. She will appreciate your honesty and your apology.

    • You can say something like, "I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to stare; I just think you’re really pretty. I won't anymore."
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    Introduce yourself to the girl instead of checking her out. If you think a girl is pretty and want to look at her, you can introduce yourself to her. Go up to her and introduce yourself by telling her your name and then asking for hers. Take a look at her body language. If she seems interested in talking to you more, make small talk with her.

    • You can say something like "Hey, my name is Dan. What's your name?"
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    Look at girls in the eye. Instead of checking out a girl, you should really try looking them in the face or the eyes. This shows respect and is a gesture that girls can reciprocate. If you have a bad habit of looking at women in an inappropriate way, try looking at them in the face more often.

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    Don't check out girls around your significant other. If you're checking out girls around your significant other, it can do more than just make the girl that you're checking out feel uncomfortable. It can also cause your significant other to get jealous and mad at you. Avoid checking out girls around your significant other or keep it as stealthy and unnoticeable as you can.[3]

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      3 Ways to Check Out a Girl Without Her Noticing - wikiHow? ›

      Watch her from afar.

      How to check out a girl without being creepy? ›

      How to Show Interest in a Girl Without Being Creepy
      1. 1 Pick the right time and place.
      2. 2 Smile and make eye contact with her.
      3. 3 Stay calm, and try not to twitch or fidget.
      4. 4 Put your shoulders back and keep your head held high.
      5. 5 Start with an open-ended question.
      6. 6 Watch for open body language to see if she likes you.

      How do you get a girl without making it obvious? ›

      Telling her without words
      1. Give her attention. Say hi, smile, and be warm. ...
      2. Spend time with her. ...
      3. Be nice, and treat her with respect. ...
      4. Show genuine concern for her well-being. ...
      5. Make her laugh. ...
      6. Tease her. ...
      7. Half-meant jokes. ...
      8. Dare to touch.

      How do you approach a girl without being obvious? ›

      ... and here are the 10 steps to take with every approach you make, anywhere:
      1. Spot a girl you want to talk to.
      2. DON'T make eye contact.
      3. Position yourself near her.
      4. Pre-open her.
      5. Open her.
      6. Introduce yourself.
      7. Engage in some light banter.
      8. Get some early investment.

      How to check a girl out without her knowing? ›

      Wear sunglasses to obscure your eyes.

      Sunglasses will hide where you're looking and enable you to check out a girl without her thinking that you're looking directly at her. If you want to use sunglasses, make sure that you get ones with dark or reflective lenses so that she can't see your eyes.

      How to be flirty but not creepy? ›

      Do your best to look friendly and open, and offer a genuine smile when you're flirting. Try to avoid fidgeting and make eye contact when you're chatting with them. Averting your eyes can come off as a bit shifty and weird. Take a moment to slowly breathe in and out if you're feeling a little on edge.

      Is rizz just flirting? ›

      "Rizz" is a slang term often used to describe someone's ability to flirt and be charming, especially for their verbal communication while pursuing a romantic interest. The term can be used as a noun or verb, depending on the sentence.

      How to pull females? ›

      Perfect your body language.
      1. More eye contact is better than less eye contact.
      2. Smile whenever you make eye contact. ...
      3. Don't stare. ...
      4. Adopt an open stance: legs and arms uncrossed, shoulders back, head level. ...
      5. Don't mumble. ...
      6. Lean in slightly to the person you're interested in when you speak to her.

      How to vaguely flirt? ›

      11 Subtle Flirty Texts to Intrigue Your Crush
      1. Use their name.
      2. Tease them.
      3. Ask them more questions.
      4. Say something a little sensual.
      5. Mention things you like to do briefly.
      6. Reveal more about yourself over time.
      7. Make yourself seem busy.
      8. Wait to text them back.

      How to flirt nonchalantly? ›

      Subtle openness like loose arms (never fold them), lots of eye-contact, smiles and giggles to his comments are all good. Just don't take it too far, like leaning in showing cleavage, or not sitting like a lady.” Use your powers of attraction to grab the attention of other men in the room.

      How to make a girl fall for you? ›

      17 Top Tips on How to Make a Girl Fall for You
      1. It All Starts From Your Mindset: Be Optimistic! ...
      2. Show That You Will Treat and Respect Her as an Equal. ...
      3. Be Her Friend. ...
      4. Don't Worry About Rushing Things. ...
      5. Make Sure That You Are Well Groomed. ...
      6. Keep the Line of Connection Open. ...
      7. Don't Be Too Available. ...
      8. Be Accepting of Her Flaws.
      Dec 7, 2023

      How to approach a girl for a kiss? ›

      Let her know that you're interested.

      Flirt with her, and make playful banter. Make plenty of eye contact, and casually touch her to loosen the physical boundaries. Smile at her, and make her feel comfortable. Even if you already know that you like each other: a bit of flirtation can set the mood up for a kiss.

      How to not come off as creepy? ›

      Avoid startling others.

      Unpredictability is a hallmark of creepiness, so do your best to act in a normal and expected way. People will not want to be around you if they are never sure how you will behave. Avoid jumping out at people or trying to surprise them, unless you know the person and are doing it as a joke.

      How do you text a girl without being creepy? ›

      How to Text a Girl You Don't Know (Without Feeling Awkward!)
      1. Introduce yourself in your initial text.
      2. Text with a purpose.
      3. Draw her into a conversation.
      4. Pay her a compliment.
      5. Text about common interests.
      6. Ask open-ended questions.
      7. Say something that makes you stand out.
      Oct 27, 2021

      How to tell a girl she looks good without being creepy? ›

      First and foremost, keep your compliments genuine and honest. Second, make sure your compliments are specific rather than generic. Third, avoid using sexualized language when giving compliments. And finally, be mindful of the timing and context of your compliments.

      How do you ask a girl to hang out without it being weird? ›

      Invite her along to things you plan on doing anyway.

      Be subtle and natural with the girl you want to hang out with by inviting her to activities you were already planning on doing. If you plan on going to a barbeque, ask her if she wants to hang out there. Enjoy yourself regardless of whether she comes along or not.

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